Just Go Through it & Deal With It
When you’re tackling a large project or new endeavor in your life, two of the most common causes of low motivation are overwhelm and lack of clarity. Both overwhelm and lack of clarity can feel very uncomfortable, which is what makes most people avoid situations that produce them. Doing so, however, is neither helpful nor productive. Learning to get comfortable with discomfort is the key to long-term growth and development.
When the amount of work staring you in the face seems insurmountable, it can be overwhelming, stifling your motivation. To use a computer analogy, when you feel overwhelmed, your brain’s operating system essentially crashes, causing you to revert back into bios operating mode, that little black and white screen you see when your computer first boots up. When you’re in that mode, you can only perform very basic functions. You definitely aren’t willing or able to try new things and develop new skills. This response is your brain’s natural energy-conservation and self-defense mechanism.
Your natural response to discomfort
When you aren’t sure what steps to take next (meaning you lack clarity), you can be paralyzed by the fear of making a bad decision. So, instead of making a bad decision, you do nothing at all. The thing that most people fail to realize is that not taking action is also a decision.
Another common reaction to lack of clarity is to spend a bunch of time doing more “research”. This pattern of behavior is what’s known as analysis paralysis, where you tell yourself that you’ll get started once you have enough information or know what to do.
We all like to have a crystal clear, big-picture view of the master plan; to be able to see the forest for the trees, essentially. Unfortunately, that expectation is unrealistic with new and challenging endeavors.
Broadening your perspective
Taking action engages different parts of your brain, forcing you to consider different options and look at the problem from different perspectives. The irony is that once you get moving, it often leads to the insight you need to see what the next step is. So, taking that first step, even if it’s initially in the wrong direction, helps you figure out what the right direction is. When a lack of clarity is sapping your motivation, it’s important to remind yourself that, while it would be nice to see the big picture, all you really need to know is the next step.
From a bigger picture perspective, if you want to accomplish something beyond your current skill level or expertise, you need to learn to appreciate the value of discomfort and get more comfortable with it. It sounds like an oxymoron, but you can improve your ability to tolerate and even thrive in situations that seem overwhelming or unclear. One way to do that is to consciously put yourself in situations that push your comfort zone just a little bit.
Get comfortable feeling uncomfortable — Embrace it
When an opportunity presents itself you have to take it. You have to step out of your comfort zone.
At the end of the day, this is what web development is. A complex, constantly evolving industry where you can never know everything and you will repeatedly be faced with situations where you are made to feel uncomfortable doing something you haven’t done before. That’s the price of progression.
As a Web Developer, and in life in general, feeling uncomfortable is just something you have to get used to.
You cannot let the ‘fear’ of feeling uncomfortable dictate your life. If you do, it will limit what you are able to do and how much you are able to achieve.
Being in your comfort zone is synonymous with repetition. While repetition is easy, it’s also boring and un-motivating. If, however, you are striving for something more, want to get out of a rut, if you are searching for success, then you need to get out of your comfort zone. Doing that is what separates happy, passionate, successful people from those that are comfortable and bored.
Once you learn to embrace the fear you will be astounded by the progress that you will make, both within your web development career and also personally.
Life is Hard, Life is Difficult
There are different levels and meanings to what a good life is. But whatever your definition of it, there is perhaps one thing that you may have in common with many other people. You might want that good life stress free. You would like to have it without having to work so hard or struggle so much for it. That is a normal human expectation. Nobody likes to struggle through life.
Unfortunately, that is also what may be stopping you from having that great life. The thought of all that work, all that planning, overcoming hurdles and resistance is enough to make a lot of people give up before they even start. It can all seem too overwhelming, and for many, it all just doesn’t seem to be worth it. It’s like being drained of energy just at the thought of running a marathon. Before you are even at the starting line the thought of all that running just scares you and tires you so much mentally you just decide not to go for it. It’s just too hard.
“Life is difficult.”
In life, you will have difficulties getting anything you want. It is very rare to get anything in life without some degree of effort. Only if you win the lottery will you have everything without effort, and even then you would have had to go out and buy the lottery ticket anyway so it’s not free at all.
Life is hard – your boss will not always be the nicest person in the world. Your job will have challenges that you did not foresee. Your workmates will sometimes be a pain. You won’t always get the salary and recognition that you want and deserve at work. Your clients may not be the nicest people in the world.
Life is hard – your kids won’t always be the ideal kids you want them to be. Your wife or husband may not be as perfect as you thought they were when you married them – in fact, I can guarantee you they are not. Your home may not be the ideal place you would want it to be. You may not the perfect wife or husband that you once thought you were.
Life is hard – running a business is not as easy as you thought it would be. No one is lining up to bring money to your business, even though you are a really nice person and your business has great products to offer.
“Only You can make it better”
Accepting that life is hard comes with accepting that you have the responsibility to make it better. Not only do you have the responsibility to make it better, you have the ability and the power to make it better.
You can make it better – become a better employee and someone worth giving more responsibilities at work. The promotions and the better pay are sure to follow one way or another.
You can make it better – learn how to raise better kids and have a happier home. Become the good husband or wife you would like your spouse to be.
You can make it better – learn how to turn that business around. Gain the extra skills you need to run a successful business.
You see, the only person you have any control over is yourself. You cannot change other people. Let’s take the example of marriage for a moment. Notice that I did not say you should turn your husband or spouse into an ideal spouse. I said you should become the ideal husband or wife you want your spouse to be. Then, once you become such a person you may have several choices as to how to relate to your spouse.
“You always have choices”
No matter what situation you are in, you have a choice. No matter how bad things are, you have a choice. No matter what you think you can or cannot do, you have a choice.
Now it may not be an easy choice, by any means. It may be a very difficult choice and the road you decide to take may be a tough one. It may push you way out of your comfort zone. It may mean that in the initial period your life may get even harder than it already is. But it is a choice nonetheless.
A lot of times you will actually find that the choices are not as hard as you thought they were. You may just have shut off your mind from seeing those choices and possibilities because you thought you had no choice. Once you become open to the idea that you are responsible for your life and that you have choices, you will find that you are no longer stuck just because life is hard.
Did you find this Article helpful? Did you take anything away from reading this? If you did please comment down below I would love for you to voice your opinion and remember, no matter how hard it gets just plow through it – Ill be seeing you on the other side.